Name me things you don't have when you're with your company. Your privacy, your whole authority and of course, your solitude itself. How many times have you doubt yourself to do what you really wanted to do after you heard people's opinion about it? Or how many times have you cancel your monthly dose of me-time at a local fine dining or a premium theater just because you're gonna sound really lame and pathetic? How many of you think that going out alone is underrated?

Imma make you see it from the other way around, you beautiful people.

Look, it's a real big loss if you dislike taking your time for your beautiful self because you fear of snapchatting your activities without anyone beside you or you worry your comment section's gonna be filled with why-the-hell-are-you-alone's or you're just too lazy to get yourself out of your bed, you're missing a lot. Like, a lot. There's always something you never knew could make you happy. Just you yourself and your conscious. Sometimes you gotta stop your mind from thinking that you can only be happy with your friends or your lover getting involved. Just... don't depend your happiness on someone else because honestly, you define your own meaning of happy. Happiness, I believe, is something to make happen and you be happy is an absolute importance. To let people's comments stop you or to simply get up go and do what you like, you decide. What I'm saying is, as long as you do no harm to anyone and anything, you totally deserve to be free.

Every once in a while, take your time alone. Pamper yourself at a spa parlor, take a long solitary walk at the mall for hours, join yoga classes, take public transports and travel across the city, cook yourself the finest meal possible, whatever. Let your heart and mind take you wherever they please. It's like contemplating, you see. I personally love to contemplate, even in the middle of a crowd. Only me, my soothing playlists and my glasses to keep me in disguise. Tee-hee, I seem to prefer hiding my face when I go out alone, behind a mask or under my glasses. Suuuure, it felt odd to walk by myself, but as I went along, I adjusted and surprisingly, I was completely comfortable with it.

During my me-time or this contemplating moment or whatever the name is, I got to face two problems but I think both are fixable after a couple of trials. 1) I did not have any particular thing to do, so I aimlessly wandered around the mall. 2) It was weird, weird, not to have anyone to discuss things with. But well, somehow the point is to be your own discussion partner.

Now let's get to the plus and minus about going out alone

No one will complain just how much you check your phone or how long have you plug your earbuds to your ears. But you'll have this lady behind the ticket counter strangely stare at you when you buy your movie ticket.

You'll have to bear with the fact that you're gonna be enjoying your meal alone, you won't have to share your food with anyone and you can always have another bowl of dessert.

To top it off, you won't be bugged by comments of you splurging hundreds of grands on a piece of lipstick and another couple hundreds of grands on a lil cute pants.

You have your freedom, you get the whole authority, just remember the limit and boundary.

Bring your favorite book, your music player, a bottle of water and enough money. The thing is, do you have the balls? I hope you do because, oh my god, going out alone is so much fun *screeches* alone, you'll get to have a long conversation with your mind, you'll get to learn the body you live in, you'll get to discover. A discovery by yourself, through yourself, within yourself.

Spreading good vibes,

Sarita Ayas

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